» I don't own my child's body

“She doesn’t have to hug or kiss anyone just because I say so, not even me. I will not override my own child’s currently strong instincts to back off from touching someone who she chooses not to touch. I figure her body is actually hers, not mine.

It doesn’t belong to her parents, preschool teacher, dance teacher or soccer coach. While she must treat people with respect, she doesn’t have to offer physical affection to please them. And the earlier she learns ownership of herself and responsibility for her body, the better for her.

The trial of Jerry Sandusky, the former Penn State football coach accused of sexually abusing young boys, has only strengthened my resolve to teach my kid that it’s OK to say no to an adult who lays a hand on her — even a seemingly friendly hand.”

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» Our “white people problems” problem: Why it’s time to stop using “white” as a pejorative | The A.V. Club

leonsumbitches:

I’m not going to quote the article because I don’t know which part would make this interesting to read but it is kind of an interesting piece on the laziness of some people’s criticism. Of course, the biggest place I see “this is totally just for white people” is in hip-hop but it’s kind of a big thing I guess? I can see where any of the mentions in this article are coming from.

I’ll make it clear before you decide whether or not to click: This article is NOT saying white people are oh-so-oppressed by your bullying but suggests rather that demographic-based dismissal is… really boring and I’d tend to agree if I didn’t do it so much myself.

I’ll also make it clear that the comments are pretty terrible which is rare on the AV Club, which usually houses clever commenters and good discussion

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